Sometimes, when we fail, it can feel like the end of the world.
None of us like to be told that we are doing something wrong. None of us like to experience setbacks in our plans.
At work, we spend long hours on a project. Sacrifice even our personal lives to get the job done. So, when it our plans do not pan out, it can definitely feel like the world is crumbling down.
If you are a leader in your organization, all the more that pressure is on its highest level. And when you fail as a leader, it can consume you.
It can make us question our self-worth, and make us feel as if the things that we want to achieve are either out of our reach or simply stupid and challenging.
However, failure serves a very important function in human development and personal growth.
Without failure, we would never know what path we need to take in order to truly succeed.
If everything was easy for us, then we would never learn. Everything in our paths would be laid out for us and we would never develop emotionally, or mentally.
What a boring world that would be!
Fortunately, failure comes regularly to most of us, but it is how we choose to view it that truly separates those who have a healthy mental health from those who are prone to wallow away and never making any progress.
If you want to take a step forward in your life and mental health and personal growth, you need to be able to understand that failure comes naturally, and you will need to learn how to use it as inspiration rather than as a reason to believe that you are worthless.
Inspiration comes in all forms.
Most of us find inspiration from things that we enjoy, not from things that hurt us.
However, when we are able to look at failure objectively, we will see that it is the easiest way to examine a situation from all angles.
It is a gift that nature gives to us, so that we can become the greatest versions of ourselves.
To begin examining your failure, first you must accept that it has happened and understand that your feelings about the situation are legitimate and you are allowed to feel them.
Once you have processed them fully, then it is important for you to look at things constructively. This may be difficult to start but the more you look at the things that happened as opportunities, the better it is for your personal and mental development.
Inspiration is a great motivator. When we are inspired, we are charged up and ready to create whatever changes need to be made in order to get us closer to our goals.
1. Consider getting a gratitude journal
Any type of journal will do, it doesn’t have to just be a gratitude journal. But gratitude journals can be exceptionally useful in this endeavor.
You will want to look at all of the things that you have learned and doing so in writing is a great way to really look inward and be introspective about your experiences.
Writing about your failure and asking yourself important questions can get you inspired to focus your mind beyond what happened.
Ask yourself these questions:
- Why did the failure happen?
- Who was affected by your failure and how?
- How you were affected?
- What opportunities may be hidden or even asking yourself what could have been done differently?
These are all great ways for you to start thinking about a plan B and getting yourself inspired to take the next step forward so that you can move on and feel better soon.2.
2. Start a hobby
Being on the phone 24/7 is not a hobby. Social media is not a hobby. This is not going to help you with personal growth.
What I mean with this is start a hobby that does not involve technology – go fishing, paint, start crafting, start crocheting or knitting, start collecting trinkets.
These activities are good for your mental health and will help you get inspired.
And once you are inspired, then you are well on the way to getting back on track.
Failure happens and it’s absolutely normal to feel upset and defeated. It is what you do to bounce back that makes all the difference.
Don’t hesitate to explore other ideas on how you can motivate yourself to stop thinking about the failures and move on. This is a step towards personal growth.
Moving on is a process. You don’t need to rush it.
But you also don’t want to be stuck thinking about what happened for a long time that you don’t feel the need to move on either.
Make the step towards moving on. Accept the failure. You are allowed to feel disappointed. But bounce back soon.
About Daisy Casio
Daisy is the creator of ChampLeaders. She has a husband, a toddler, a passion for travel and love for learning something new everyday. She writes about leadership, motivation, career tips and many more. Daisy hopes to share her mantra on being positive and living your best self now.